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sometimes we hide ourselves from other people for so long that we end up forgetting parts of ourselves and start believing in the lie, but why are we hiding? why lose parts of ourselves to lies and games? for once i don’t wanna hide or play anymore, for once i am going to accept myself the way i am and stop lying to not only to myself but to others. i know growing up we are taught to accept people the way they are but judgment is often passed and sometimes without even realizing it and sometimes our own judgement to ourselves is much worse then those around us. its hard to accept yourself when others cant accept you and we start hiding and lying not only to ourselves but to those around us. others will always believe the lie if we don’t share the truth but eventually we too believe the lies and lose part of ourselves to it. when we can no longer hide or we finally accept ourselves then we can start living being ourselves without fear. we must remember other people’s opinion on us is not as important as our opinion of ourselves and how we feel about ourselves. we tend to change who we are to fit other’s ideas and we are often taught that not fitting in or not being socially acceptable is more important than accepting ourselves. acceptance starts with ourselves and when we do that we are able to accept others the way the are without judgement. i know for myself i have been in hiding my whole life because i am different and fear kept me from knowing myself and from other knowing me. people only know the person i showed and gave them and honestly most of the time that person was fake and she doesn’t exist. i realized today if i died no one in my life would really know who i am and the person i am would forever be a secret that died with me and i to think of people remembering me as someone i am not as the fake me just made me sad. i realized if i don’t change then i cant expect others to change either and hiding myself was me killing myself. i accept who i am but i have to try harder to show myself to others and to not fear because they don’t have to live in my head and with myself i do. their acceptance and approval used to be important to and i realized as i got older that my own approval was worth more than everyone else’s in the world. i have to remember that we are all different for a reason and we shouldn’t have to hide or change ourselves to fit others ever. remember you cant accept acceptance from others if you can’t accept yourself and you can’t accept others either until then the change has to start with you not other people.

lets catch up i ended in Arkansa for week high and off my rocker. Cut myself up pretty bad and then after coming down went to Virginia Beach where i went into hospital for a week for manic episode. i stopped talking to Justin for over month although i am still in love with him and i am severely depressed and wish i was dead. i am not i am still here and alone. i been staying on my medication for sometime now and i have to say i rather flush them down the toilet. i am still getting high on meth so that does not help but meth is a hard drug to kick. i finally broke down and called justin tonight only because i needed to someone who understands to talk to. surprisingly he listen and we had good conversation not sure if i will ever get back with him but i know for now i cant be with anyone. i hate feeling alone and scared it makes me feel like a child when i am grown. i plan on going to savannah in few weeks maybe stay there for a while who knows not really making any plans but i need to get away and try and make it on my own. if i cant i will surely end up in a long facility put there by my family who cant deal with me. something has to give and either i am gonna die by killing myself or i am gonna figure this crap out and have some life or happiness in my life. where i am going i dont know but somewhere has to be better than here.

when i started this blog i was in a place in my life where i was lost and looking for something. i for the first time didn’t think about the opinion of anyone else about starting this blog and it has become to mean so much to me and has brought me a way to open myself up and share myself for the first time. i started this with the hope to finding a missing part of myself and it has turned into a journey thru my life and soul. being that this blog is anonymous, i felt i could share everything on here in away that i can’t in person with those who are closes to me. i am not prefect and my life is a mess that I’ve chosen to share moments and problems happening now. life is messy and often time we forget that people make mistakes and have daily problems. there are times where its good but sharing just the good is not real life i hope in sharing the bad it makes a difference to someone. i have to often remind myself that i am not the only person going through this and that i wont be the last. i have to be honest when i write and to show the world that i am not scared anymore of who i am and that its ok to be myself. i am currently not doing well as far as staying on medications and not using drugs. mentally some days are not so bad but i struggle deeply with my addiction right now more than anything. its hard to stay clean when i feel like my life is falling apart and i don’t know what to do. this blog has become more than i could have ever imagine and the possibilities for it are endless. i know when Racheal died i was on a one path to self destruction that would kill me. i felt lost without her and alone. i had no drive, goal, or reason to do anything and all honesty i felt like there was no longer a point to this. Racheal had shared and given me all she could and its because she was like me. i know whats like to feel alone in the world like no one understands and its a horrible feeling. in person i am nothing special and i have a hard time talking and being around other people. the fact that i meet Justin who is similar to myself is a miracle. this blog has provided away for me to connect with other people and to be heard i may not always be well and i will never be fixed but for once i can be me and let my fear go. my writings may not make sense or be right in your mind but for me this is the way it is right now and i am doing what i can to give back those who are like myself. some people may disagree on sharing certain personal things and that this is pointless but i don’t care about those people. i have stand by and said nothing when i wanted too and i have not spoken honesty when i should have. this blog is not about being right or wrong or socially ideal its about my struggles the way it is at that moment. i can honestly say that i am happy with my blog and that i am doing what feels right for me. this is my life the way it is right now.

we all have wants and needs in life and sometimes our wants is what we need. i know for myself the want for happiness is hard to accept or even to allow myself to have. i often feel like i don’t deserve things and i deny myself of those things because of that and i often deny myself of a need that i see as a want. Justin was someone i wanted and i see now that i need to have some happiness and to finally have someone in my life who i can open up to completely. in my short life i have managed to destroy anything and everything that i felt like i didn’t deserve and often times i hurt others in process. i sabotage myself even unknowingly and even though i tried my hardest not to with Justin i managed to still do that some how. i struggled to shared myself with him and even though i shared more of myself with him then anyone else i still pushed him away at times. even though i didn’t ruin it alone i can honestly say about 80% is my fault. i know its crazy that i can love someone so much that has not been the best influence or treated me the best i can say that i love him because he saw me for me and he didn’t leave and he is like me in ways that no one else could be. we helped each other and he didn’t judge me and he told me what i needed to hear and was honest about the important things. when my sister died i didn’t think i could find anyone who could help me or that i could connect with. i know that there are others like myself but finding them is hard and often times is a struggle to just try to find others. Justin was luck and in my eyes was a gift that i didn’t know how to accept. what i realize when we moved in together was he needed me just as much as i needed him. he is like me and the odds of having a second person in my life like this is a blessing and i only say that because the timing was actually perfect. i was mess when i meet Justin and without Racheal i didn’t want do anything and i was giving up on life when i found Justin. even though he got me hooked on drugs and he put his hands on me that one time i can honestly say that i would not be alive if i didn’t meet him. i am only here today because he helped me and he gave me a reason and a purpose to continue on. he makes me feel happy sometimes and the loneliness i often feel has disappeared since i meet him. when i realized he was like me it took a lot out of me to share certain things and the fights we had made us stronger and for once we both had someone to rely on and to finally have a friend that understood. Justin gets the isolation and had been in similar places like myself he also was able to see my wall and the destruction i cause to my life. he often tells me all i do is destroy and that even though i don’t intentionally hurt others i do. he right about that and that if i don’t stop i will eventually have nothing left and that i do deserve happiness and to have things. i know he doesn’t know that i have refused Jon my husband twice since i meet him to come back to Virginia and to work out my marriage. i choose to leave the feeling of content i had with Jon to be with Justin at a chance of having more and i still managed to screw it up. our last fight Justin said he didn’t want to speak to me again and avoided my calls the last few weeks. this has caused me more pain i have ever felt and because of that pain and anger i burn what was left to ashes and i know now i can’t fix it and that its my fault i destroyed any chance of him coming back and my last chance at any happiness in life. my reason and purpose is gone and my only friend and the one person who i need to continue to try and to help me is not coming back. i killed myself and i know that even if by some chance i fix any of this i am not sure it will be enough for him to take me back. i love him and i screwed up and i failed not only him but myself and mainly i wish i didn’t do those things. i hurt him because he hurt me and i honestly i wanted to make sure that he couldn’t hurt me again. old habits is hard to change and mine are killing me and i realize that now that there’s no one left and i should have known not to burn Justin like everyone else because he is not like everyone else. i honestly want him in my life but this want is a need and i didn’t see that. i was blind to the fact i thought of him as a want and in the last few weeks since he left me i have just let myself go. i mean i have not left my apartment and i avoid most calls including my family. in losing my sister was hard and that feeling of being alone is overwhelming but finding someone else saved me and losing him because i couldn’t change or see what i was doing has made me alone again. i blame myself for this mess i made of my life and honestly this is the biggest and most destruction i have ever done in a time period and i honestly don’t have anything worth saving left. i have manage to succeed in making sure i don’t have certain things and to make myself miserable and alone to have nothing so i can have reason to not try or fight. i finally did it and if i can’t fix this and Justin doesn’t come back in my life i wont forgive myself and i don’t want to live with this mess i made. i know it will be a matter of time before i give up completely because i screwed up more than ever this time and i literally dug my grave when i burnt the bridge with Justin. i have nothing left to destroy and i don’t even know if wanna try and fix any of it because i have no one left and loneliness is not worth living for and i am to tired and out of hope of finding someone new or even to do it alone. my family i have pushed away for so long that even trying to connect now is not in me not to mention no one else is like me even if my dad might be i don’t know if there’s time or if we can connect now i feel like to much time has passed and not enough healing on my part from his absence in my childhood for me to share or allow myself to accept his help or his love to the fullest i need to trust him. i trust Justin more than anyone and even though he hurt and left me i would still only trust him to help me and to lay my life in his hands only. i know that trust is key and i never have been able to trust anyone besides Racheal and Justin i don’t even trust my mom. to let someone in to know you completely is to know they will never leave and will accept you for you no matter who you are and to know that they will keep what you hide and you do the same for them without fear and the trust of knowing each other completely without hiding anything and loving each other the same and always no matter what that lets you know you are never alone and that they are a true as a person and a friend. not many people know that feeling of complete openness and freedom to show your self without fear and to know someone else the same and share that bond and connection with another person like yourself is rare. Justin and i shared something that you can’t explain and the feeling i get when i am near him is like nothing i ever experienced not even Racheal its not just unconditional love its like feeling time stops when he smiles at me or when we looked into each other’s eyes and saw each other’s souls and feeling safe when he holds me. i don’t know if that’s true love but i know that i never wanted to screw it up or lose him like this. happiness was given to me and i couldn’t accept it or even realize that this was different that it wasn’t going to fail or hurt me the way i feared most relationships had and could i was scared and i was unable to stop myself and i did what i feared i would do and without even knowing it fully until he left. i wish i could change and that i was not this way that i could allow myself to let in others and to accept that i do deserve more than content and loneliness. if Justin came back to me i would do whatever it took to keep him in my life and i would stop letting fear control my life and remind myself that i am worth something and that i should accept things i deserve instead of this misery i placed upon myself and put my life ruins. twenty five may sound young to give up but twenty five years of this is enough for me if something doesn’t change or happen soon i know that i will eat a bullet before i am 30 and this i am sure of. misery can only last for so long until you had enough and mine has been more than i can bare at this point.

i have never been sure really about anything in my life and really the only thing i was sure of is that everyone is born and everyone dies. That’s one thing i am sure of but as i get older and time passes me i learn and realize things i thought i knew and realized i really had know idea and neither does anyone else. People assume and act like they know everything but in reality they know just as much as you do or less and every so often you meet someone who know just a little bit more. the whole big question everyone wants to know the answer to and some how no one knows the answer they guess and assume but they are not sure the big question What is the meaning of life and our purpose for being here? we humans have asked this question since probably the beginning of time and still no definite answer has been good enough. as time passes me i beginning to watch others and to teach myself the importance of life and things that a classroom can’t teach you. some people call it being a bum or some hippie crap but i think its important to the human spirit and soul to grow and to evolve into something more. we spend our lives building society and government and to gain knowledge of what society feels is important. i dont think thats why we are here or what we should be doing. everyday i see people who have lost their humanity and their compassion for one another. theres always talk of making the world a better place and wanting the next generation to have something better or more. unfortunately you dont see alot of people making an effort to change or to make this place better what you do see is people using each other and fighting each other. i am not a hippie thats all about peace and love but i have to say alot of fighting i see is not necessary and is pointless. we are fighting over land money and power for what to control something that will eventually disappear or is meaningless when it comes down to taking lives of others. you know people are likely to do the right thing if they see someone else do it first and in all honesty even if your not doing it just by saying nothing and watching it is just as wrong. we are suppose to have democracy in the United States but half the time the government lies and doesnt do what they are suppose to do. if you ask people why are fighting in the middle east and most people will say to catch the 9/11 terrorist but we already caught him and some who try and keep up with the news will say to help them set up a government like ours but no one realizes that most of the people in the middle east dont want us there and truthfully no one brings up the oil thats there that America government is trying to seize control over. i know if the government would tell us that its because of oil that our people are dying for a lot of people would be upset. its sad to say that even our government has other motives that some would not agree with. the whole tax payers paying more and our debt raising and its all money money money. the solution to our nations debt is simple even a high school student could figure it out. i say lets cut the pay of government senates, the president and his officers pay and judges why not cut their high pay if they are really in it to help our country and make people who make more money pay more taxes and stop sending people overseas to fight an unnecessary fight over oil and money then the government needs to band or restrict companies that started in the U.S from going overseas to manufacturer just because labor is cheaper there we need to reinvest in our country put money back into ourselves and makes jobs that people in our country so people have money to buy and promote America with in itself. i know if we dont buy american made no one else will and i know if we dont start fixing our country instead of trying to fix others then eventually there will be no America and to think its because of a piece of paper that the government and society as said that will fix everything and buy happiness money is what has become our reason to work and to drive us to what we believe will make us happy. i have to say thats sad that we let a piece of paper control us the way it does. i think we should forget money and focus on people and ourselves. we should be helping each other and we should be compassionate and understanding of each other. we spent so much time in thinking we were building a better place full material things for the next generation but in reality we been destroying and killing the humanity and love that we need. people will always fight but its when we learn to fight over a more meaningful purpose that we can then learn to live in peace and stop the fighting for good. things will never be prefect but we are slowly evolving into a hatred and meaningless existence that will led to constant fighting to nuclear war and bio hazard warfare that will kill all of us. if we dont change the way we treat each other and we dont take the time to help and make a change to better ourselves and to be the example to future generations then we are doomed to not only repeat our failures but also worsen the way we think and future generations will soon forget compassion and the meaning of understanding and acceptance will be just a myth that will eventually be forgotten we believe we should be evolving into a more intelligent people but really we should be evolving spiritually and looking within ourselves for something more and giving more of ourselves to others we should be growing as a person and evolving into a better person and giving the knowledge of truth and ourselves to others because reality no one will care if know every fact about a subject what i care about is did you comprehend the lessons and learn something to improve yourself to help others or are you like everyone else who really just dont care enough because it doesnt effect you now and you figure someone else will do it because thats what people did before us and those who did try at least are at peace with their lives and who they are you and after reading this either you will think about it or you will just think i am crazy and maybe i am crazy but this is this my thoughts and how i see things take it or leave it this is only a little insight into my hopeful maybe delusional mind and for myself i can honestly say if there was more understanding and compassion in this world then maybe so many people wouldnt use suicide as a way out of this place because most people cant accept themselves if no one else does either

On each section the Band is listed first then the song titles and the * are my favorites hope yall listen and enjoy and most of theses bands i do enjoy their other songs theses are just the ones i really feel are speaking for my soul right now and that may sound stupid to you but these songs found the words i was trying to say and made me realize that someone else gets it out there and knows what i am feeling

Art Of Dying
*Sorry
Breathe again
Best I can
Die trying

My Darkest Days
Save yourself
Like nobody else
The world belongs to me
Still Worth fighting for
Save me
Goodbye
*Without you

Saving Abel
Contagious

Shinedown
Breaking inside
Call me
My name (wearing me out)
Save me
Her name is Alice
For my sake
I am not alright
Through the ghost

Sick Puppies
What are you looking for
Riptide
Odd One
So what I lied
Should’ve know better
In it for life
Don’t walk away

The Pretty Wreckless
Make me wanna die
Just tonight
Zombie
You
Far from never
*Heart
Panic
Hit me like a man
Nothing left to lose
Everybody wants something from me
*Where did Jesus go?

Three Days Grace
Break
Chalk outline
Misery loves my company
*The high road
Time of dying
Time that remains
Unbreakable heart
Last to know
Without you

Theory of a DeadMan
Great pretender
Hate my life
*Hurricane
Not meant to be
Out of my head
Sacrifice

The Wreckers
Stand still look pretty
Leave the pieces

well where to being. justin walked back into my life not sure if its a good thing considering its only been a few weeks since he changed his number and said he was done with me. i also got hugh today with him and Red who is the new addict in my life. i am not sure if i can contiue to to do this to myself, i hate myself and i hate my life. i cant seem to find away to be happy or to stop inflicting pain on myself. i am addict and i purposely destory myself. its like when i know i am doing wrong or i let someone in i have to punish myself. i dont devserve much and i am not sure i can say that i even want anything out of life anymore. we are yall just waiting to die and for me i dont have anything to look foward to other than death. i get tried of people hurting me and hurting myself but i feel like its what i deserve. i so depressed and i am tweaking and i hate it so much. i love justin i do but i also know that shit gets crazy when we are together. i also know he probably doesnt feel the same. i think being alone is what will happen isolation is best and pretty much gaurenteed for me. why bother letting anyone noe i am 25 and the games and everything else is not worth it to me. i already feel worthless and i hate myself so i dont see the point in letting others feel the same about me. i just wish i could wake up from the nightmare that is my life cause its killing me one day at a time.

Ok so I posted 2 times earlier both real short and honestly cause I am high but there are things that need to get out. I mean since my sister died I ve had ectopic prego and lost my right tube, my husband left me, I got hooked on meth, I meet my dad for the first time and now I am trying to go back to school and get my life back. Its hard and I am struggling to make it through each day. To be honest I am still as lost as I was 2 yrs ago and I feel more alone since justin is no longer in my life. He may have got me on drugs and our relationship was crazy but he saw me for me and stayed. I may never find anyone else who will want me this way I am damaged goods. You know I dont know anymore than anyone else and what I thought I knew it wasnt what it seemed to be. I miss my sister greatly I wish she was still here but I cant change it and not having justin now I am alone. I dont think I can let anyone see me the way they did and it may hurt me in some way but I just cant do it anymore. I dont wanna hide but I feel like I dont have a choice anymore. I know if I cant get my life together myself then I am screwed. At this point my walls are up for the long haul now and I rather be alone then do this again. I love justin and my sister understood and my odds of finding someone else who gets it is slim to none. I am not sure if I will ever heal or be able to get this right but as long as I am kinda sane and alive then I have to try. I am sure my sanity will run out before I die and well when that happens there is not much I will be able to do. Reality is already a blur for me and focusing on what is real has not mattered to much to me lately. I gotta try harder I know to keep from getting lost in my head. I am not sure if the drugs have affect on that but hopefully once I can stay clean then maybe things will be more clear. Its a never ending war here and I def feel like I am losing most of the time. I am jacked up I know it but I only have myself to blame and well only I can try and fix it. I will never be cured I will always have work at it and its sad to say I get tried of fighting it. My mind is exhausted and emitionally draining. My disorder will get worse as I get older and I am doing it alone right now. I dont want this to kill me but I know the odds of suicide are much higher now and I also know that I rather die before I let it take over me to the point I dont know who or where I am. I am already bordering schizo and that scares me more than death. All I can do is try to have a better life and to live one day at a time cause I dont know what the future holds for me. I just want a normal life but I know thats not going to happen for me. Time will tell soon and all I can do is hold on to what I do have and hope for the best cause I am just along for the ride now.

So since its the 2 yr of my sisters death and having depression BPD and severe anxiety I feel like I used more drugs today than normal. It sucks I feel so alone today and to be honest I dont know how I made it this far without her. Maybe its the drugs or idk but I am still here. I been high for days this week cause I cant deal with shit. I hate being this way and I hate what I ve become here lately.

ok so i will admit i am drunk no lie. i dont write as much cuz i been clean of meth for about 3 weeks. i think about using all the time i cant stop my addiction and i completely broke it off with Justin who was my roomie and the guy who got me hooked on meth. i havent seen my dad in almost a year. my marriage is still falling apart. my family still clueless to almost everything. suicidal more than ever. what else can i say my life is a mess even if it seems on the outside i got it together i am dying on then inside. i loved justin but he apparently didnt feel the same. i am on the rebound and well shit keeps getting worse it seems. i start school in jan and thats a good start but i have no idea how my anexiety will hold up. everyday is a struggle now and more confusing than the last. i have a bad feeling that the end is near and not to due to me. if justin keeps using like he has been he will kill me no matter what. i cant count on god to save me like he has been. Racheal i cant get her out of my head last couple of days she keeps alive some how i feel like if it wasnt for her son i  would have shot myself in the face along time ago. Oding is poitnless tried so many times i ve given up hope on it ever working. my addiction to meth haunts me everyday but some how i manage not to use. achole at this point drives me to stay here numbs the shit i dont wanna feel anymore. common with borderline personality disorder is addictions and lose of life. i am almost 25 and shit haunts me more today than then they did yesterday. thing r getting worse no meds for almost 6 months n i am continuing on a down hill spiral as my sister did i dont know where to go or what to do anymore i am just going with the flow at this point. why try and stop what i cant? i get tried of fighting and really why fight what is probably meant to be kicking and screaming on the way down only hurts me and my family. its killing me this life is making me lose hope in myself and in mankind so why bother. maybe i am just drunk or maybe i am right who knows at this point i dont care anymore.